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This is actually a very interesting question/discussion for the bi-s out there. From a conversation with a bi guy some time ago, it doesn't seem necessarily true that bi-s have more choice. By more choice, we're thinking of a union operation between the male and female pools. But for him, he was interested in people with both feminine and masculine characteristics, which is an intersection operation between the female and male pools, and is a much smaller pool (maybe about the same as gay/lesbian?)
I definitely understand where you're coming from. I'm not at all bi-phobic, but I have to admit that I scrutinize and analyze potential bi-mates more than gay mates, just because, initially when trust hasn't been built up yet, with bi guys I have the additional burden of making sure hes not a straight guy just acting on a "curiosity."
There is also the case of different degrees of bisexuality, some guys can be 80% straight and 20% gay, and (don't know this myself) I can imagine how disheartening it might be for the gay mate, if the bi mate oggles at the opposite sex most of the time.
My automatic quote function isn't working. Prolly my internet acting up but,
As a bisexual, I don't think -feel- that we have more choice either.
Firstly, when engaged in a relationship (I've been with males, and is currently in a relationship with a female; happily for 14months now), I am completely open to my partner that I am indeed bisexual - not a lesbian, not straight, but bisexual. My girlfriend identifies with 70gay/30straight while I feel that I'm more 50/50, so when we laugh about hot girls or rarely, guys, it isn't as awkward.
I find that I have the impression that in some cases, for guys, bisexuality might increase their interests superficially (acts as a bad judge of their character imo too) as they seem interested in girl on girl. In other males, if they don't care, great! If they're disgusted, we all know how that ends.
But I find that with other females, lesbians will act slightly more cautious exactly for the reason you stated - fear that they/we are experimenting. The doubt is hurtful but I can understand why they do it. Hey, as much as I hate to admit it, I do it too. Bad experience in the past like this - a friend suddenly declared that she's "turning into a lesbian now" (these are her words), it was astonishing to me that she can declare a sudden change because she wants a relationship, any relationship.
Hey, circle of BL might be small, but we are not desparate enough to let people experiment on us, at least most of us aren't.
/rant'd lol;; Sorry D:
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