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 Leviathan.Zephriel
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By Leviathan.Zephriel 2011-10-05 20:50:05
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That's nothinggg >___> and she wouldn't believe you anyway!
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By Asura.Selennia 2011-10-05 20:52:45
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I'll tell her it's why you have pictures of girls on everything you own. =p
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By Leviathan.Zephriel 2011-10-05 20:53:56
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Why are you out to sabotage me? ('A' )9 *shakes fist*
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By Asura.Selennia 2011-10-05 21:03:03
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I'm just teasing you silly!
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By Fenrir.Stiklelf 2011-10-05 21:05:37
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My parents didn't care really.

At first my dad cried because he was worried someone would try to hurt me. My mother thought it was just a phase, since one of my other family members had experimented with men. Understandable on her part.
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By Leviathan.Zephriel 2011-10-05 21:06:17
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Asura.Selennia said: »
I'm just teasing you silly!

And now my hand hurts from shaking my fist at you! I got a cortisone injection today and it hurts like a mofo :s Also, you ready for any more awesome movie suggestions yet? :D
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By Cerberus.Irohuro 2011-10-05 21:07:41
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Fenrir.Stiklelf said: »
My parents didn't care really.

At first my dad cried because he was worried someone would try to hurt me. My mother thought it was just a phase, since one of my other family members had experimented with men. Understandable on her part.

lol, awesome dad
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By Carbuncle.Asymptotic 2011-10-05 21:15:29
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My mom/stepdad tried to get me to sleep with a hooker to turn me straight.
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By Leviathan.Zephriel 2011-10-05 21:16:54
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You're kidding, right? :|
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By Carbuncle.Asymptotic 2011-10-05 21:22:54
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Nope xD
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By Carbuncle.Valmur 2011-10-05 21:26:22
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Carbuncle.Asymptotic said: »
My mom/stepdad tried to get me to sleep with a hooker to turn me straight.

Really hate when people do that :( happened to my friend
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By Leviathan.Hohenheim 2011-10-05 21:31:04
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My dad said he believes that I don't know I'm gay because I haven't slept with a woman. He's like, how do you know then?

So I told him

Well, how do you know you're not gay if you haven't slept with a man?

He yelled at me at that point and said I was using other arguments to try to get around my mistake. It was quite sad and hurtful actually :< He still doesn't agree with it or tolerate it but "he still loves me". But I know what he really thinks and feels. It's not really tolerance nor acceptance, am I right to think it's not good enough?

Guess I'll just give him more time :s But we never talk on the phone either or anything so who knows what'll happen.
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By Fenrir.Stiklelf 2011-10-05 23:23:57
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Guess I got lucky.
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By Bismarck.Onirisu 2011-10-06 13:15:11
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I'm sorry it did not go well.

I would give them more time. I know a guy whose parents essentially disowned him. 4 Years later they are closer than most people are with their parents.

You may look around the Human Rights Campaign's website (hrc.org) They have some good information that really helped me come to terms with the process of coming out. I am still in that process right now, but I feel a lot better about it.

You may also consider seeking someone in your community who specializes in this, for instance the college I am going to has a gay psychologist who helps people work through the coming out process. I am not ashamed of asking for help, it has made me happier and made coming out to my brothers less anxiety ridden.


http://www.hrc.org/issues/pages/gay

*edit* Another organization that can help is: Parents, Families and Friends of Lesbians and Gays. (pflag)
It has information for both you, and your parents, if they decide they want to find out more. They may even have meetings in your area.

http://community.pflag.org/Page.aspx?pid=194&srcid=-2
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By Bismarck.Gaspee 2011-10-06 22:25:15
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Carbuncle.Asymptotic said: »
My mom/stepdad tried to get me to sleep with a hooker to turn me straight.

Wow... that is just incredible...
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By Odin.Liela 2011-10-06 22:27:34
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Wow guys. :-( I'm really sorry that your folks aren't taking it well. But it's no fault of yours. Family is supposed to love, support, and encourage you no matter what. They are the ones failing that, not you guys. You're doing nothing wrong. You guys just keep being who you were meant to be! You deserve to be happy!
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By Cerberus.Irohuro 2011-10-06 22:33:32
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when i came out, my mom was like "oh, ok, but are you sure? are you sure you're sure? i just want you to be sure about it, since its something major."
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By Bismarck.Gaspee 2011-10-06 22:38:31
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Sure I'm sure that I'm sure! ... Sure!
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By Cerberus.Irohuro 2011-10-06 22:43:10
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and then she told my sister, who was like "k". and then i told one of my friends, and she was super excited for me, and really happy that i was accepting who i am.
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By Bahamut.Aeronis 2011-10-06 22:43:33
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On a lighter note, I'm thinking on getting tapers, but I feel like they would steal my innocent look :| Thoughts?!
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By Bismarck.Soranika 2011-10-06 22:47:53
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tapers?
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By Bismarck.Reyke 2011-10-07 01:54:21
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Hmm not exactly coming out story but my mom is very unaccepting religious ect.The other day we are out having a burger so I tell her my friend and I (who is basicly my *** hag) have a joke where if she has a boy I will give it "the talk" and if I have a girl she will do the same. Then my mom goes when are you going to propose to her and im like ugh. My mom knows im bi doesnt like it and lives in denial that I can be forced on just the straight side. Hell I was on youtube watching a video that had nothing to do with gay or anything and she comes in sees 2 guys on the screen and goes why do you watch something with couples. I was tempted to say uh gay people are couples stupid but didnt wanna start a fight so I let it go.
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By Odin.Liela 2011-10-07 12:53:34
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:-( My folks are religiously intolerant as well. Not in the same way as yours, though, Reyke. I was indoctrinated as a child, converted to Christianity at the ripe old age of 5, baptized at the ripe old age of 8. I had no idea what it all meant. Now I'm non-religious and really want nothing much to do with any of it, but if I tell anyone in my family that I do not believe, I will be disowned.

You guys are unbelievably courageous, in my eyes, for risking that to be who you are. You take a stand and tell your folks that you are homosexual or bisexual and you hope they understand. You tell them the truth and hide nothing, not knowing how they might react. I am a coward, and cannot bear (yet) to be disowned so I live a lie. I let them believe I am a Christian. I tell them I will pray for their problems and that I go to church and that I will indoctrinate my kids if/when I have any. Cowardly, lying, little ***.

You guys are truly courageous. I look up to you for that.
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By Bismarck.Soranika 2011-10-07 12:58:30
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I came out to my mom before when I was living on my own five years ago... I'm living with my parents again and they're pretty much still in the denial phase and I haven't spoken about it sinse. =\
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By Asura.Ina 2011-10-07 13:16:01
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Odin.Liela said: »
Cowardly, lying, little ***.
Who are you talking about... because thats deffinetly not you XD Not wanting to be disowned by your parents doesn't make you a coward and no reason to beat yourself up.

Bahamut.Aeronis said: »
On a lighter note, I'm thinking on getting tapers, but I feel like they would steal my innocent look :| Thoughts?!
I'm trying to think of what tapers are... for some reason I just keep getting this picture in my head of the dangly things on some band uniforms.

One of my things at work baked off in the shape of a heart and was gunna give it to you guys in picture form but I can't find the thing to load it off my phone. When I stumble across it my heart (pic) will be yours :P
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By Bahamut.Aeronis 2011-10-07 15:32:24
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Sorry, shoulda said Gauges, but Tapers look more attractive in my opinion.

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By Carbuncle.Asymptotic 2011-10-07 16:26:15
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Are you innocent? :P
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By Bahamut.Aeronis 2011-10-07 16:26:55
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People think so (*'-')



But really I'm a bad kid.
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