I'm a hetero male 32 years old. I play FFXI nearly 15 hours per day and have done so continuously, without break, since 2002. Despite my insane obsession with Vana'diel, I still run/swim/lift for 5 straight hours daily. This has allowed me to hone my body into a deadly weapon that, to modern mortals, looks like it belongs to a Spartan from the film "300."
I do not post this to brag. Rather, I offer a perspective that few in this world are able to provide: When I enter a bar/club/dancehall: It's always the exact same:
1.) Girls in line, depending on their attractiveness compared to mine, either ask me what I do or talk ***. There's no difference in the appproach; it's always 100% straight forward. I usually respond with "I'm an IT Project Manager." Despite the fact that that's an extremely generic, not-necessarily-technical job, they're confused ten times out of ten and don't ask any more questions about my job.
2.) The bouncer: If I have at least 3 girls with me by the time I get to the door, the bouncer doesn't say a word or even ask for ID. If not, he reluctantly asks for ID and then usually comments on my physique. I train 365 days a year on a Combat Control / Pararescue Swim/Run/Lift routine, so I look like a superhuman that modern mortals don't understand.
3.) Inside people: Every one is awkward as ***. Every one who works inside of a bar/club/dancehall is an awkwards ***who is trying as hard as possible to be cooler than they are. If you ever feel like you're a dork or not cool enough to be in any particular place, remember that everywhere you go is run and populated by other humans and that the vast majority of people are scared and vulnurable. Just be yourself and you'll do better than most.
TLDR: This seems like it belongs on the misc but the key to feeling good, looking good, and getting women is all the exact same thing: work out like you're a Pararescueman. There's no substitute for extreme hard work and almost no one alive today looks like Pararescue guys, which means those that do put the effort in will stand out like *** Hercules.