Allowing Teens To Have Sex In The Family Home...

you're delusional if you think they won't try.

Hey you know a good way to make them not ignorant? educate them. not by fear either.

being your teen's friend and buddy is a lot less important than making sure your teen understands the consequences of their actions and behaves properly whether they're in a cozy environment or not. there's this weird idea in parenting today that it's more important for your kids to like your decisions than for you to do what's best for them.

tl;dr, kids that won't use birth control and protect themselves from STIs when they aren't *** in your house shouldn't be having sex at all. instead of saying OH JUST DO IT HERE THEN you should be focusing on getting them to put the condom on, take the pills, use the dam, etc, whether or not they're with their stuffed animals.

that's the whole point. educate them and make sure they protect themselves no matter what, instead of caving in to your own fear because you failed to educate your teen properly on safe, clean, and healthy sex. letting your children have sex in your house because "they'll just do it anyway and it's safer and cleaner here" is a total cop-out. be a parent.

I'd have no prob knowing my kids (which I do not have and am not planning on having for quite some time still) are having safe, protected sex in their rooms.

Better than realizing they've been sneaking out and finding somewhere else, which could be more dangerous (in a park, in a car, w/e ) etc.

Of course though, part of being a teenager is enjoying the freedom of life and the thrill of doing things in uncommon or improvized places so I'm not really against that either. In the end, it's up to them, as it was for most of us I believe.

Whatever happens in their rooms better stay in those rooms though, no weird noises, or else!

Then you are denying them a purely natural biological function. People will have sex just as any other species on the planet.

Social norms have changed that make sex "under-age" taboo, but the need is still there. Just as it has been since Australopithecus walked the African plains. (I feel like I have said that before just recently.)

I don't see why the two can't coexist.

It isn't just about them having safe sex, it's about their home being a safe environment compared to places they might go if you don't let them do it at home, they are still young after all.

They are going to do it anyway, giving them no other option than to do it in a place you might not even know where they're at is far worse parenting than letting them stay at home, what if something happens to them?

Damn, this is a tough question!!!

as for when I would consider it, idk. Depends on if I think they could handle the responsibility at the time.

As for if I'd do it if I thought they could handle it? yeah.

My thoughts would be if the parent is gonna allow it, they have probably already had discussed a few things and ground rules. Just simply saying bring anyone up here to have fun with we dont care would be irresponsible. I'm just assuming that most parents would prob know who the boy or girl their kid is sleeping with.

I personally think that sex is great and healthy and fun, but only if the people engaging in it are able to take responsibility for the consequences of their actions and internalize that responsibility. this is why children or blackout drunk people can't consent - they aren't in a mental state to take responsibility. if you feel your child will go off and have sex in a park without a condom, and your response is to let them have sex in your house, that is irresponsible parenting because you are taking their culpability onto yourself and making yourself responsible for their unhealthy behavior, far beyond your natural responsibility as a parent. do you see why that's problematic? your job as a parent is to ensure they get the education and parenting so that they WILL use a condom, they WON'T have sex in a park at night, so that they can make informed and safe decisions. talking to your kids is definitely the best way, I think.

if the reason you would allow it is like... well, I can't think of a good reason to allow it personally, but if your reason WASN'T because they'll do it anyway, then I don't care. but going off the article, the reasons the parents listed there are really terrible.

ps the reason underage sex is still taboo and should remain that way (aside from religious whackos) is because a consequence of underage sex is teenage pregnancy and teenage motherhood. Teenage moms are vastly less likely to complete high school, get higher education, find liveable wages, etc. Their children are enormously more likely to grow up in poverty; something like 80% of households in poor neighborhoods are headed by a single mother. teenage sex isn't just a healthy and natural animal instinct, it has consequences and because teenagers are idiots, they are much more likely to suffer those consequences of pregnancy or disease.

not letting your teenage daughter go on birth control is ignorant and hopelessly idealistic. letting your teenage son *** in his room because he won't use a condom or will go off to a dark park otherwise is bad parenting. big difference :/

The thing that concerns me most about this thread, is that I'm relating more with the parents than with the kids... damn I'm old ; ;

birth control has some nasty side effects, unfortunately

there are tons of methods of birth control, from tons of varieties of pills to implants, shots, all sorts of stuff. the side effects are largely positive actually, unless you're allergic or have hormonal imbalances or other unusual things. shorter and lighter periods, clearer skin, fewer mood swings, stuff like that.

talk to your doctor and make sure your teenage daughter is safe! times like these make me happy I'm not a parent ~_~

I can't say that I agree with the original topic of allowing it in the home. However, I do believe that a parent shouldn't deny their teen birth control.

oh if they want it, go for it.

I wouldn't say to force it on them though...

Dad: My kid...... he is a man now ;_;

disfiguration with oral contraception? I've never heard of this before, how young are we talking here

Citation please

burden of proof lies with you man, I did a brief search a minute ago and couldn't find anything about this :/

Same. That's why I asked for a citation.

(pops up with detailed video footage of what happens....10mins later FBI bust into your house because the person in the video was under aged)

How so?

ADVISORY: Don't read it if you can't handle it...

Come to think of it, it might not have come to that point if I was ever able to openly speak about it with my mother.

oh snap!