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By Fenrir.Saeki 2011-03-24 14:28:10
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Asura.Ashleh said:

I've given her ample time and I told her just a few minutes ago to come get all of it or I was throwing it away. She refuses.
Put it all in a box and leave it in front of her door?
That way, she can't accuse you of theft and you won't have any regrets later on. After a break up it is easy to have strong feelings of dislike for someone but you never know if you might feel bad afterwards (or if she will try to make you feel guilty) for dumping or selling her stuff.
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By Quetzalcoatl.Soube 2011-03-24 14:28:14
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Asura.Ashleh said:
Well, she just called and said she'd pick it up around 6pm.

Should I still throw it away for lulz? Or is this not a good RL situation to troll?


I think it'd be easier on you to just let her take what she takes and throw everything else out. Also warn her when she comes that anything she doesn't take is going to be thrown out.

This is really not the best time to let your troll side loose.
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By Bahamut.Dasva 2011-03-24 14:34:15
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Asura.Ashleh said:
Well, she just called and said she'd pick it up around 6pm. Should I still throw it away for lulz?

Or is this not a good RL situation to troll?
She's reading this thread isn't she!?!

Anyways no I'd just leave it as it is if for no other reason than to avoid her bitching and drama. Maybe leave her a present to find later though if you really hate her.
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By Asura.Ashleh 2011-03-24 14:38:01
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It's just so *** HELP I AM TRAPPED IN 2006 PLEASE SEND A TIME MACHINE. And I'm asking for advice from people on an internet forum. Lol.

She broke up with me about three weeks ago and went back to live with her parents. She broke up with me because "someone else was making her feel special and pretty" and what not, then later went on to tell me that she did like this person. Later on she tells me that she's sorry and that I'm the only person she could ever love and that if I gave her some more time she'd come back to me. This whole time, she's been begging me to let her come back and live in my house, despite the fact that it tears me up inside and makes me want to kill myself. I just can't deal with it and her ***depresses me. I can't just wait around for this girl who doesn't even answer my phone calls or tell me wtf she's doing despite the fact that she's "trying" to work it out with me and "wants to get back together with me". She hid things from me, like who she was talking to, or what she was doing for almost three months and we haven't had... uh... you know... in like three months as well. I don't see this working out in any form or fashion.

We've lived together for two years almost, and it's selfish as Hell for her to ask to come back without being involved with me. imo.

If someone sees it differently, then your opinion will be appreciated.
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By Quetzalcoatl.Soube 2011-03-24 14:40:09
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You haven't done ANYTHING with her in 3 months!?!

Oh hellz no, dump the ***. D=
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By Ramuh.Vinvv 2011-03-24 14:42:50
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Wombat said:
Ramuh.Vinvv said:
I dunno.
Sometimes I care, sometimes I don't.
I'm not ever the same person twice lol.
:D
I think girls still want you to "care", they just don't want you to care "too much" or something to that extent lol.

essentially i see it as a balance sort of affair.
being dependable and someone to rely on without smothering or boring someone to death lol.

But you see people saying there is only one right way to be in a relationship...that it will only work with certain types of people, albeit those things do help(holding the same interests and all that), but really i believe it's on a deeper level than just the simple likes and dislikes and matters more in the personality..which is a hard thing to quantify.
but we always want to quantify stuff like this lol.
Yeah, I'm oversimplifying. But I'm just trying to give a decent starting point for overcoming nerves and awkwardness. Once you've moved past those things, thing become more complicated (er... human) and everyone is different.

Like you said, not every girl responds the same to the "I don't care" attitude, but it's generally a pretty good rule when ice-breaking--at least in my experience.
Oh I know.
I just had to add the contrary in so people don't think that a rule of thumb=a rule overall...which honestly is something that can be commonly confused lol.
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By Bahamut.Dasva 2011-03-24 14:44:16
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Lol women. Go and destroy what they got trying for something new and exciting then when than they fall on their face remember why the went with someone more reliable to begin with. Rinse repeat.
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By Ramuh.Vinvv 2011-03-24 14:46:21
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It's just so *** HELP I AM TRAPPED IN 2006 PLEASE SEND A TIME MACHINE. And I'm asking for advice from people on an internet forum. Lol.

She broke up with me about three weeks ago and went back to live with her parents. She broke up with me because "someone else was making her feel special and pretty" and what not, then later went on to tell me that she did like this person. Later on she tells me that she's sorry and that I'm the only person she could ever love and that if I gave her some more time she'd come back to me. This whole time, she's been begging me to let her come back and live in my house, despite the fact that it tears me up inside and makes me want to kill myself. I just can't deal with it and her ***depresses me. I can't just wait around for this girl who doesn't even answer my phone calls or tell me wtf she's doing despite the fact that she's "trying" to work it out with me and "wants to get back together with me". She hid things from me, like who she was talking to, or what she was doing for almost three months and we haven't had... uh... you know... in like three months as well. I don't see this working out in any form or fashion.

We've lived together for two years almost, and it's selfish as Hell for her to ask to come back without being involved with me. imo.

If someone sees it differently, then your opinion will be appreciated.
I wouldn't let her move in, but I would try to get some sexy-time out of it and kept her in the "we'll see" position.
but with that you A)need a good poker face, and B)don't fold right away.
I honestly would just do that and see how much I could get out of it without her living in the same house.
But that all depends on how tricky she can be and if she's one of those crazy *** that would just show up with all her ***lol.
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By Quetzalcoatl.Soube 2011-03-24 14:46:31
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Bahamut.Dasva said:
Lol women. Go and destroy what they got trying for something new and exciting then when than they fall on their face remember why the went with someone more reliable to begin with. Rinse repeat.

One of the good things about being gay is that I don't have to deal with that ***. Women make no sense sometimes...
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By Ramuh.Vinvv 2011-03-24 14:48:16
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Quetzalcoatl.Soube said:
Bahamut.Dasva said:
Lol women. Go and destroy what they got trying for something new and exciting then when than they fall on their face remember why the went with someone more reliable to begin with. Rinse repeat.

One of the good things about being gay is that I don't have to deal with that ***. Women make no sense sometimes...
Bah lines in the sand comfort the men of men.
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By Fenrir.Mtmoogle 2011-03-24 14:51:16
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Make sure you have another chick in the house when she comes to pick up her stuff!!!
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By Quetzalcoatl.Soube 2011-03-24 14:51:57
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Ramuh.Vinvv said:
Quetzalcoatl.Soube said:
Bahamut.Dasva said:
Lol women. Go and destroy what they got trying for something new and exciting then when than they fall on their face remember why the went with someone more reliable to begin with. Rinse repeat.

One of the good things about being gay is that I don't have to deal with that ***. Women make no sense sometimes...
Bah lines in the sand comfort the men of men.

...Was that supposed to make sense? o.o
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By Asura.Ashleh 2011-03-24 14:52:32
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Ramuh.Vinvv said:
Asura.Ashleh said:
It's just so *** HELP I AM TRAPPED IN 2006 PLEASE SEND A TIME MACHINE. And I'm asking for advice from people on an internet forum. Lol.

She broke up with me about three weeks ago and went back to live with her parents. She broke up with me because "someone else was making her feel special and pretty" and what not, then later went on to tell me that she did like this person. Later on she tells me that she's sorry and that I'm the only person she could ever love and that if I gave her some more time she'd come back to me. This whole time, she's been begging me to let her come back and live in my house, despite the fact that it tears me up inside and makes me want to kill myself. I just can't deal with it and her ***depresses me. I can't just wait around for this girl who doesn't even answer my phone calls or tell me wtf she's doing despite the fact that she's "trying" to work it out with me and "wants to get back together with me". She hid things from me, like who she was talking to, or what she was doing for almost three months and we haven't had... uh... you know... in like three months as well. I don't see this working out in any form or fashion.

We've lived together for two years almost, and it's selfish as Hell for her to ask to come back without being involved with me. imo.

If someone sees it differently, then your opinion will be appreciated.
I wouldn't let her move in, but I would try to get some sexy-time out of it and kept her in the "we'll see" position.
but with that you A)need a good poker face, and B)don't fold right away.
I honestly would just do that and see how much I could get out of it without her living in the same house.
But that all depends on how tricky she can be and if she's one of those crazy *** that would just show up with all her ***lol.

I don't know about you, but I don't see this being good for my mental health at all. If you read earlier, "haven't done anything in 3 months." We don't have "sexy-time."
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By Quetzalcoatl.Soube 2011-03-24 14:53:53
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Asura.Ashleh said:
Ramuh.Vinvv said:
Asura.Ashleh said:
It's just so *** HELP I AM TRAPPED IN 2006 PLEASE SEND A TIME MACHINE. And I'm asking for advice from people on an internet forum. Lol.

She broke up with me about three weeks ago and went back to live with her parents. She broke up with me because "someone else was making her feel special and pretty" and what not, then later went on to tell me that she did like this person. Later on she tells me that she's sorry and that I'm the only person she could ever love and that if I gave her some more time she'd come back to me. This whole time, she's been begging me to let her come back and live in my house, despite the fact that it tears me up inside and makes me want to kill myself. I just can't deal with it and her ***depresses me. I can't just wait around for this girl who doesn't even answer my phone calls or tell me wtf she's doing despite the fact that she's "trying" to work it out with me and "wants to get back together with me". She hid things from me, like who she was talking to, or what she was doing for almost three months and we haven't had... uh... you know... in like three months as well. I don't see this working out in any form or fashion.

We've lived together for two years almost, and it's selfish as Hell for her to ask to come back without being involved with me. imo.

If someone sees it differently, then your opinion will be appreciated.
I wouldn't let her move in, but I would try to get some sexy-time out of it and kept her in the "we'll see" position.
but with that you A)need a good poker face, and B)don't fold right away.
I honestly would just do that and see how much I could get out of it without her living in the same house.
But that all depends on how tricky she can be and if she's one of those crazy *** that would just show up with all her ***lol.

I don't know about you, but I don't see this being good for my mental health at all. If you read earlier, "haven't done anything in 3 months." We don't have "sexy-time."

Yup, kick the *** out and never let her back in. I'm sorry but 3 months with no kind of sex at all is just insane.
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By Quetzalcoatl.Volkom 2011-03-24 14:55:00
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whats a good way to go about asking someone out that you never talked to but you sit behind them in class D:?
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By Ramuh.Urial 2011-03-24 14:55:41
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It's just so *** HELP I AM TRAPPED IN 2006 PLEASE SEND A TIME MACHINE. And I'm asking for advice from people on an internet forum. Lol.

She broke up with me about three weeks ago and went back to live with her parents. She broke up with me because "someone else was making her feel special and pretty" and what not, then later went on to tell me that she did like this person. Later on she tells me that she's sorry and that I'm the only person she could ever love and that if I gave her some more time she'd come back to me. This whole time, she's been begging me to let her come back and live in my house, despite the fact that it tears me up inside and makes me want to kill myself. I just can't deal with it and her ***depresses me. I can't just wait around for this girl who doesn't even answer my phone calls or tell me wtf she's doing despite the fact that she's "trying" to work it out with me and "wants to get back together with me". She hid things from me, like who she was talking to, or what she was doing for almost three months and we haven't had... uh... you know... in like three months as well. I don't see this working out in any form or fashion.

We've lived together for two years almost, and it's selfish as Hell for her to ask to come back without being involved with me. imo.

If someone sees it differently, then your opinion will be appreciated.

Nah dude you're handling it properly. She is clearly very selfish.
Hi5 for moving on and looking after yourself!
/holds hand up then pulls it back
As soon as you wash your hands because I have to question how clean they are after 3 months.
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By Ramuh.Urial 2011-03-24 14:56:14
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Quetzalcoatl.Volkom said:
whats a good way to go about asking someone out that you never talked to but you sit behind them in class D:?
Actually talking to them.
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By Bahamut.Dasva 2011-03-24 14:57:08
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Quetzalcoatl.Volkom said:
whats a good way to go about asking someone out that you never talked to but you sit behind them in class D:?
Pass them a note!!!

I like you do you want to go out check one:

No[ ] Yes[ ]
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By Fenrir.Mtmoogle 2011-03-24 14:57:59
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Bahamut.Dasva said:
Quetzalcoatl.Volkom said:
whats a good way to go about asking someone out that you never talked to but you sit behind them in class D:?
Pass them a note!!! I like you do you want to go out check one: No[ ] Yes[ ]
YES
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By Leviathan.Chaosx 2011-03-24 14:58:20
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Quetzalcoatl.Volkom said:
whats a good way to go about asking someone out that you never talked to but you sit behind them in class D:?
Ask them if they want to get high after class. (assuming this is college)
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By Quetzalcoatl.Soube 2011-03-24 14:59:52
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Quetzalcoatl.Volkom said:
whats a good way to go about asking someone out that you never talked to but you sit behind them in class D:?

Start talking to them first? Find some kind of an excuse like "Hey, I forgot to bring x to class, do you have one I can borrow?" or "I couldn't hear what he just said, what are we doing?" There are lots of excuses, and when/if they're ever helpful, offer to take them out for coffee or something to thank them.

There are like a million ways to initiate a conversation with someone, but the most important thing is that you start talking to them. You don't even know if you'd really like the person until you start having conversations with them.
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By Ramuh.Vinvv 2011-03-24 15:09:48
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Asura.Ashleh said:
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Asura.Ashleh said:
It's just so *** HELP I AM TRAPPED IN 2006 PLEASE SEND A TIME MACHINE. And I'm asking for advice from people on an internet forum. Lol.

She broke up with me about three weeks ago and went back to live with her parents. She broke up with me because "someone else was making her feel special and pretty" and what not, then later went on to tell me that she did like this person. Later on she tells me that she's sorry and that I'm the only person she could ever love and that if I gave her some more time she'd come back to me. This whole time, she's been begging me to let her come back and live in my house, despite the fact that it tears me up inside and makes me want to kill myself. I just can't deal with it and her ***depresses me. I can't just wait around for this girl who doesn't even answer my phone calls or tell me wtf she's doing despite the fact that she's "trying" to work it out with me and "wants to get back together with me". She hid things from me, like who she was talking to, or what she was doing for almost three months and we haven't had... uh... you know... in like three months as well. I don't see this working out in any form or fashion.

We've lived together for two years almost, and it's selfish as Hell for her to ask to come back without being involved with me. imo.

If someone sees it differently, then your opinion will be appreciated.
I wouldn't let her move in, but I would try to get some sexy-time out of it and kept her in the "we'll see" position.
but with that you A)need a good poker face, and B)don't fold right away.
I honestly would just do that and see how much I could get out of it without her living in the same house.
But that all depends on how tricky she can be and if she's one of those crazy *** that would just show up with all her ***lol.

I don't know about you, but I don't see this being good for my mental health at all. If you read earlier, "haven't done anything in 3 months." We don't have "sexy-time."
Well that's because she didn't want anything from you when you didn't get any, now she does.

But it's honestly easier just giving it up.
But is it right to always go the easy route?
I wasn't sure as to what willpower you had so that's why i said that, but with what you do have cutting her off seems to be the best bet since that's what you really want to do.
You know what you want to do in your life way better than anyone else would is the bottom line because only you know how you really feel.
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By Ramuh.Vinvv 2011-03-24 15:21:49
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Quetzalcoatl.Soube said:
Ramuh.Vinvv said:
Quetzalcoatl.Soube said:
Bahamut.Dasva said:
Lol women. Go and destroy what they got trying for something new and exciting then when than they fall on their face remember why the went with someone more reliable to begin with. Rinse repeat.

One of the good things about being gay is that I don't have to deal with that ***. Women make no sense sometimes...
Bah lines in the sand comfort the men of men.

...Was that supposed to make sense? o.o
It could.

You know the imaginary lines that separate states and countries?
Those same lines are drawn when defining what you "prefer" in a relationship.

I find personality comes before sex.
Not saying that it's wrong to just say you like 1 type of person...but I dunno that just gives me the feeling that one would be selling themselves short.
But I dunno.
Guess it really does go to different strokes for different folks. Some people feel better when there is some sexual line being draw, I don't really.

I just don't really get the whole "gee it must be nice that i'm gay" deal.
people are people regardless if they have a penis or not.

just makes me wonder how much of how we are "different"(difference between men and women) can be implied or otherwise.
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By Odin.Headstrong 2011-03-24 15:33:12
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id say being female is the worst >:!
if you are straight, you have to deal with the crazy men you dont understand and if you are lesbian you have to deal with crazy women ><
i think i just stay with my cat w
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By Quetzalcoatl.Soube 2011-03-24 15:33:53
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Odin.Headstrong said:
id say being female is the worst >:!
if you are straight, you have to deal with the crazy men you dont understand and if you are lesbian you have to deal with crazy women ><
i think i just stay with my cat w

lol, I think you're the only woman I'll ever love. <3
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By Ifrit.Kungfuhustle 2011-03-24 15:35:40
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my hand is the greatest.
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By Odin.Headstrong 2011-03-24 15:39:51
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Quetzalcoatl.Soube said:
Odin.Headstrong said:
id say being female is the worst >:!
if you are straight, you have to deal with the crazy men you dont understand and if you are lesbian you have to deal with crazy women ><
i think i just stay with my cat w

lol, I think you're the only woman I'll ever love. <3
lol! so back to cuddling ? ^_^
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