Yea i'll bite...moreso because im sort of at a loss as what to do.
3 and 1/3 years ago I dated this japanese girl and things were great till she left to go back to japan(something I knew all along...mistake learned). Kept talking to her for a couple weeks after she had left and I was rather emo(my first love) about her not coming back for who knows how long. I tend to get upset when a girl I love breaks up with me and I cant have her anymore cuz I love with my whole heart. ***ended badly, I said alot of dumb things and we stopped talking for the past 3 years(also blocked me on fb) until...
About a week before the japan earthquake/tsunami I thought it would be cool to see what she was up to so I sent her a email. A couple emails later ***hit the fan in japan and I learn shes coming back for a month since she cant really do anything since everything is shutdown pretty much(school, work, etc). Well of course a bunch of old emotions in me get stirred up and I just don't even know.
The real kicker here is, my 2 best friends are still friends with her and have been keeping in touch with her. So im bound to run into her at some point shes here and i dont even know what ill do.
Bismark.Josiahfk said:
I want to be honest here, I don't think you understand love completely. She blocked you on facebook for impulses you made you mentioned? What else did you do that threw her off so much?
But either way a first love always stays with us in some form, learning a great deal but I wouldn't pursue this personally. Do you think you can move on? Since your friends in touch with her are so close to you I'm betting they're willing to accommodate you hmmm
Holy ***this thread is still going? lol.
Well i just went back and read the facebook messages we were sending back and forth, and i noticed before i started to be angry at her she said she had already moved on and only thought of me as close friend. I think what threw her off so much was that i like to well...touch. Not necessarily sex, but you know, being able to see her face to face, hold hands, kiss here and there, etc. Im not very good with long distance relationships.
It was easy to move on because when we ended it officially she was in another country hundreds of miles away. I still hurt for a while afterward yes, but it was easier knowing i wouldn't be seeing her(at the time i thought)ever again. I had moved on i thought, but all of a sudden what i thought would never come again has indeed come with all these emotions flooding back.
I think i might have found my answer between you and Ukiyasan's advice.
(sorry for my nubbness i cant seem to fiqure out the quoting system.)
