Asura.Abriannah said:
I hate that, how it's so hard to go up and just talk to someone.. I feel like were so afraid of rejection that we just don't even open ourselves up to the possibility. I'm the same way, Im way too frightened to just walk up to a guy and strike a conversation. Or really anybody.. rejection is a scary thing. It's why I've always found relationships online. You dont have to be afraid of the same things because you're not INSTANTLY being judged for something other than what you're saying, which is refreshing for someone like me that isn't really beautiful or talented. Unless you count volunteering, reading, overachieving, choir singing as talent. XD So I agree, it all has to do with confidence. :) At least to start out.
*** that ***, you are beautiful!! We are all beautiful in our own ways and if anyone ever puts you down for attempting to start a conversation with them, they are a fool and probably have serious issues anyway. If there is something you don't like about yourself, find a way to fix it or get over it. No one is perfect. People who appear to be perfect are in most cases fake as all hell. They are so focussed on their looks, their money, and their own life, that they are probably not ever going to be happy with anyone.
I spent 3 years online dating, and it was the most miserable 3 years of my life. I kept meeting women who were so afraid of confrontation and rejection that they didn't talk. Mix in my own bits of insecurity and it led to lots and lots of boring dates and only a handful of second dates.
We weren't meant to find love online. Most of the people on there are really not ready for love. They want it because its the norm, but spend so much time online that they don't know how to interact with people in real life. I understand there are exceptions, but usually those exceptions are social people who just use the internet as a tool and not as their life.
First tip to building confidence. Find something outside of FFXI that you love to do that will involve other real life people. Running, kite boarding, biking, disc golf, hula dancing, whatever. Even if you don't meet someone to love doing those things, the interaction with people will help build your confidence in approaching people and help build you up for that next opportunity to flirt with Mr. Right.