Romantically Frustrated?

could always use a little boost to wat i already know ;o

Watch out! She has enough voltage to incapicitate a Dragonite!

i thought that was raichu? close enough

It is. :D

good to know i can remember pokemans even when super tired :O

I just figured that even though you always avatar Pikachu that Chuuuuu was vague enough that I could get away with Raichu :D

An interesting thread.

What do i do? Im so lost at what to do. Granted i am typing this drunk, but i still dont know what the *** to do. give me your wisdom ffxiah with no flames i am lost.

I met this girl through my best friend and he met her through AHA(alliance of happy athiests[sp?])and we dated for about 2weeks when she made me get a a full spectrum STD test and i dont need to go into details as to what i have. But i was reluctant to get a blood test because i simpley detest blood tests(i hate needles). we broke up for a few days at this point in time but after i did get the blood test we got baack together. we dated for about a month and knowing me, i love way to fast and never know how to let go. Insert "i wear my heart on m shoulder" here. So we were together and by golly it was the best time in my life(one of my besties point out i say that about all my girls i date).

fast forward a month and she wants to break up with me because i will admit i am not a fully funcitioning human being right now. Her reasons are solid but i am trying to change them. I even quit smoking for 96hours for her but i just couldnt bare her not being with me so i lit up again(we are broken up as of monday it will be 3weeks). I just dont know what the *** to do with this situation. Now that you have some back story i can tell my actually troubles.

She lives with one of my best friends, like best best friends that ive known since 7th grade. i will have to see her for the rest of my life no matter what i do because she has adopted all of my friends as her own. She has only been in eugene 2-3months but she has all the same friends as i do and i will never be able to plain ol forget her, i will have to see her from time to time no matter what. I always love too much with my heart and can never let go. I just dont know what to do with this.

I still like(love?) her so very much and i just want to know whats going on in her life. I just cant accept that its over and its so very weird between me and her. it seems like everything i do, or she does, some way or another gets under each others skin. Im at a loss as what to do. The only way ive ever gotten over any other girl was to forget her completely. I still have a place in my heart for every girl i have ever loved so very deeply. But this one i will have to see and its impossible to be able to just plain ol' forget her. I dont know what the *** to do

I didn't knew non religious people needed a support group, lol.


As for your problem, if you haven't already told her how you feel, if you're willing to take the risk, go for it.

If you already have expressed yourself, then it's best to leave it alone, as you don't want to appear desperate/stalkerish (and it's not going to do anything but bother or annoy her if she's already made her mind up and you keep pestering her)

Other than that, it'll just take time. Even if you have to see her, try not to focus on her. If you're hanging with mutual friends, try to focus on w/e you guys are doing and try to have fun.

I'm concerned about what "not a full functioning human being" means

Im sure ill be embaressed by this in the morning but right now i couldnt care less. I drink ensure because i have trouble eating solid foods partly because i have a very large open bite and mushrooms have added to that and i am scared to eat food and feel as if i am going to choke. I have been doing better recently but it is going to take time and braces plus TAD's. Basicly screws into my jaw and i am deftly scared of that. Im just not ready to start that right now. I am jobless, no school, my fb "about me" reads "one giant *** up"

@tigerwoods
i feel like i have confessed my feelings to her but they dont seem to get through. I just want to be with her and she dosnt feel the same way about me. I just cant seem to let go of it. I half hoped ffxiah would give me a "do this and she will get back with you" method but i know that is foolish to think that. I just cant seem to let go of what could have been. She was different from all the previous girls, she told me what i needed to do to fix my problems and i have bee doing that but lost hope along the way. Everything i have done, look for a job, quit smoking, try to not think of myself as a lost cause was for her...

Well, based on your first post and then the second, it's definitely over. Any further attempt is worthy of creeper/stalker status.

It sucks, I know(in general and personally), but a relationship requires two people to work. If you get a bad grade? Study harder. If you want to lose weight or gain muscle? Work out. However, in terms of a relationship, you can work hard and for as long as you can stand it, but if the other person doesn't want it, it's not going to happen. Some goals in life you can do own your own through your own work and determination. Others, no matter how hard you try, w/o cooperation of the other person, will not happen.

Unfortunately, the latter seems to be your scenario. At this point, again, based on what you've said at least, I don't think there's any chance that this is going to happen.

I hate to say it, but have you ever considered the possibility that your feelings did get through, and that she's just plain no longer interested?

At this point, it's definitely best to work on your recovery rather than attempting to get her back because not only do I believe the latter will be much more difficult(if not impossible), I also believe it's the path that's going to cause you the most pain and take you even more time to get over.

Sorry if that came off dickish, it certainly wasn't intentional, but I feel it had to be said. I honestly do feel trying to recover and move on is going to be your best choice here.

I actually remember seeing this in an episode of Bleach of all things, but it was basically saying how infinitely more difficult it is to build trust and bonds with another person than what it takes to completely shatter and eliminate that bond between each other.
I'm gonna have to surf through my archive to find that one episode now to quote it lol.
Hopefully someone here knows what I'm talking about.

I dont think you came off dickish at all. I thank you very much for your honesty but i think its best if i come back to this tomo when i am sober and able to comprehend these feelings better.

Tiger's right. The relationship is over. The only way you could get her back is basically by not worrying about getting her back and working towards making yourself into an attractive mate. At which point you'd be better off finding someone else.

Found it... sorta.
The entire scene and monologue is much more in depth and explained, but here's it in a nutshell:

"It’s easier to crush a dream than realize one, forming a bond is infinitely more difficult than breaking one" -Gin Ichimaru

In other words it can take years to create a bond you share with another, but only seconds to destroy it. Cherish and protect those that matter most.

Id be interested in what episode that is from, if you will.

I only ever watched episode 1-50 something and was totally blown away. Everything after that was a bit underwhelming. Bantou filler was boring and I stopped ever since. Friends tell me it gets better, but I frankly never got around to it.
Anyways I'll do some digging and see if I can muster up a clip on youtube, otherwise I might have to make my own vid and upload it heh.

If you can find what episode it is from that would be all i need, no need to go through all that added effort.

sounds like a bad case of trying too hard, and i'm not saying that to be a jerk either

there's at least seven billion other people out there you know

Sometimes it's best to simply cut your losses and let them go.
After all, if you truly care for them, that's the best thing you can do for them; as morose as that sounds.

You went out with her for a month. You will get over it.

I was sure I had called her and talked to her and was so happy...it was just a dream <_< gdi I hate my subconscious so much.

*** it, I'm gonna try..

I hate that so much when you have a dream about somebody with emotional attachment. I don't know it's weird but the dream feels like a lifetime so when I wake up I get kind of down when I realise it was not real.

It's weird, I don't think I've ever dreamt of "the one that got away".
Though they're long gone and nothing more than a memory now, they've always reserved a special place in the mind and heart. I don't dwell or think about them often, but rather they kept their place in me as a significant part of my life, for better or worse you know?
I do my best to keep it on an even plane of respect rather than remorse or sorrow.

On second though I hardly remember any of my dreams.
They tend to be black and white though ;/