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 Leviathan.Niniann
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By Leviathan.Niniann 2011-06-30 01:11:55
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Bismarck.Josiahfk said:
/comfort but what do you think

Right now if you had a great friend who wanted more and really cared about you would you jump into it and risk the friendship or would you be the type to play it safe and stay friends as long as possible to make sure things were clearer

Not getting into a relationship with a friend (this is assuming there's chemistry and you both want to and w/e) is silly. The whole 'ruining friendship' thing is kinda ***. If you're real friends, even if you break up you don't lose the friendship... and getting into a serious relationship (assuming you want one) with someone who isn't a friend is pretty much setting yourself up for trouble unless a miracle happens and they turn out to be like your best friend.

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Carbuncle.Lolserj said:
i dont see why people would not want to start as friends

that just seems logical to me

if you don't start as friends

there's nothing at stake if it goes sour

True, and this is perfectly fine for casual dating.
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By Artemicion 2011-06-30 01:14:57
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What was that old saying?
Something like...
Love is friendship on fire.

Kind of a vague statement, but one I generally agree with.
 
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By Phoenix.Sehachan 2011-07-10 04:41:07
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*sulks*
How can I still love someone I haven't even been talking to in over a year? Why just thinking about her still makes my heart race? Why in hell does she still appear in my dreams? /emomoment
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By Pandemonium.Ironguy 2011-07-10 05:10:42
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just hope that such a feeling is mutual, to say the least; i've been in such a situation before with someone, to be blunt

in my opinion, the better question to be asking is: why did you ever halt communication between each other in the first place
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By Phoenix.Sehachan 2011-07-10 05:15:53
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I was in pain and thought that cutting it would have made me forget her. But it appears it didn't happen...we both said many stupid things to each other and everything was left like that, with lots of things unsaid and without telling each other how we really felt...Idk, maybe this is the reason, when you don't cut something the proper way you feel as if it was still there...if that makes sense.
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By Cerberus.Oseryu 2011-07-10 05:18:58
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Phoenix.Sehachan said:
I was in pain and thought that cutting it would have made me forget her. But it appears it didn't happen...we both said many stupid things to each other and everything was left like that, with lots of things unsaid and without telling each other how we really felt...Idk, maybe this is the reason, when you don't cut something the proper way you feel as if it was still there...if that makes sense.

Have you guys tried seen/talked at all lately?(maybe a dumb question) But maybe you both made the mistake of not telling eachother how you felt.
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By Leviathan.Niniann 2011-07-10 05:21:20
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Bismarck.Josiahfk said:
Is that your experience on this? Because I've had mixed results depending a great deal a lot on the woman in question's personality more than anything

Yes all of the boyfriends whom I'd genuinely consider my friend are still my friends. Some of them are closer than others though--one moved to England and I haven't talked to him all that much since.

@Seha: Yeah just talk to her. D: You'll feel a lot better even if it doesn't go anywhere.
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By Pandemonium.Ironguy 2011-07-10 05:28:19
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Phoenix.Sehachan said:
I was in pain and thought that cutting it would have made me forget her. But it appears it didn't happen...we both said many stupid things to each other and everything was left like that, with lots of things unsaid and without telling each other how we really felt...Idk, maybe this is the reason, when you don't cut something the proper way you feel as if it was still there...if that makes sense.

sounds like there's more to it than just a proper burial, so to speak, if even such a thing was ever necessary

it's your own call as far as to if a confrontation on the matter is in order or not, but me being me these days, i've learned from my mistake a while ago and now finish what i (or in this case, she) started

right as i finish off that sentence, i picture premature ejaculation, thanks to how i worded it

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By Phoenix.Sehachan 2011-07-10 05:31:34
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It's just that it's been so long <_< and I said stupid things to her to push her away from me, I think I'd just look pestering and/or obsessive...I doubt she still thinks of me at all after so long
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By Leviathan.Niniann 2011-07-10 05:36:42
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Phoenix.Sehachan said:
It's just that it's been so long <_< and I said stupid things to her to push her away from me, I think I'd just look pestering and/or obsessive...I doubt she still thinks of me at all after so long

You'd be surprised. Just do it, if she thinks you're being obnoxious then go away, but I doubt that'll be the case. Just start with an apology.
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By Pandemonium.Ironguy 2011-07-10 05:39:29
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Phoenix.Sehachan said:
It's just that it's been so long

and it'll only get longer if you don't do something about it >>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>:::::::::::::::::::::(((((((((((((((((((((
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By Leviathan.Niniann 2011-07-10 05:43:18
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Pandemonium.Ironguy said:
and it'll only get longer if you don't do something about it >>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>:::::::::::::::::::::(((((((((((((((((((((
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By Asura.Abriannah 2011-07-10 06:34:26
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Leviathan.Niniann said:
Pandemonium.Ironguy said:
and it'll only get longer if you don't do something about it >>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>:::::::::::::::::::::(((((((((((((((((((((
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By Artemicion 2011-07-10 07:23:55
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You know what's shitty?
When indifference clashes with passive loneliness.
Leaves me confused and conflicted.
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By Odin.Headstrong 2011-07-10 08:08:27
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Ew the romantic thread 3:
/pokes with a stick
What happened to that guy/girl thingy where everyone was discussing the weirdest things >,>
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By Carbuncle.Lolserj 2011-07-10 08:15:43
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Odin.Headstrong said:
Ew the romantic thread 3:
/pokes with a stick
What happened to that guy/girl thingy where everyone was discussing the weirdest things >,>

i think there is a difference between the two
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By Odin.Headstrong 2011-07-10 08:16:36
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Yah, this one is the emo thread .-. the other was more interesting
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By Carbuncle.Lolserj 2011-07-10 08:19:30
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that may be so but people may want to post in this one?
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By Odin.Headstrong 2011-07-10 08:21:56
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Looks like it :O I was just surprised to see it again.. I still remember you called me old earlier in this thread :P
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By Carbuncle.Lolserj 2011-07-10 08:23:26
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i dont recall doing that

i probably said older :O
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By Odin.Headstrong 2011-07-10 08:25:03
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Nuh uh, you said something like internet dating sites are full of old people, like 25+ or something lol I don't remember and i'm too lazy to search for it xD
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By Carbuncle.Lolserj 2011-07-10 08:59:31
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i didnt mean old in that sort of way :X
 
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By Leviathan.Novax 2011-07-10 15:50:29
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Rejoined the singles club today :)
 
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By Leviathan.Novax 2011-07-10 16:05:47
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Bismarck.Josiahfk said:
Leviathan.Novax said:
Rejoined the singles club today :)
/welcomes with apple pie : p

At least someone wants me! </3
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By Ramuh.Krizz 2011-07-10 16:06:20
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Leviathan.Novax said:
Bismarck.Josiahfk said:
Leviathan.Novax said:
Rejoined the singles club today :)
/welcomes with apple pie : p

At least someone wants me! </3
He just wants to use you.

/comfort
 
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By Bahamut.Raenryong 2011-07-10 16:19:22
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Bismarck.Josiahfk said:
Phoenix.Sehachan said:
It's just that it's been so long <_< and I said stupid things to her to push her away from me, I think I'd just look pestering and/or obsessive...I doubt she still thinks of me at all after so long
I would at least casually connect with her and try to gauge her feelings if it was me, but what do you think you'll do?

Your biggest enemy is yourself. So many romantic encounters etc that could've been fail because one party doesn't want to look bad, or make things awkward, or is afraid of failure etc. Step above it - you have everything to gain and little to lose.
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