oh and before the end of my last semester i tried talking a girl into getting a cup of coffee with me and got shot down >_>
damn
Some people(college students) drink coffee like it's water, so asking for a coffee date may seem like it's a good idea, but in reality it's a very cheap date.
i only talked to her in class so i figured it would be a good way to get to know someone :/
From my experience, the best way to break out of the friend zone is to find some way to introduce some kind of sexual talk into a conversation (not meaning talking dirty really, but just talking about sexual stuff). If she's interested, the conversation can get quite interesting and if you succeed in turning her on... you're not staying friendzoned.
oh and before the end of my last semester i tried talking a girl into getting a cup of coffee with me and got shot down >_>
damn
Some people(college students) drink coffee like it's water, so asking for a coffee date may seem like it's a good idea, but in reality it's a very cheap date.
i only talked to her in class so i figured it would be a good way to get to know someone :/
not really a date <.< if you know what i mean
Was just pullin yer chain!
But yeah it is a decent way to get to know someone.
I wish I knew why I friend-zone people. Most commonly it's because I'm in a relationship, and that's my default mode. Granted, I'm not sure if that's actual friend-zone though?
My only advice I can give you is this: girls like having guy friends. They like talking to Friend-Zoned guys because the platonic chemistry between men and women is a bit different than woman+woman. A lot of men won't submit themselves into being a friend-zoned buddy, so finding a good one is useful!
Anyway, I suppose what I'm saying is don't make yourself out to be that super awesome 'gay-boyfriend' that the girl needs if you don't want to be friend-zoned.
How you do that? Idkman.
I think she means "be kind of a ***".
Not like an ***, but be kind of a ***. Develop a little tension between you and the girl.. sometimes that manifests into sexual tension. There is some specific breaking point where it originates, I cannot specifically pinpoint it, however.
An incredibly common tactic, but not the best one. Being a *** gives the illusion of confidence and masculinity but it's a thin and fragile veneer. Further, if you revert after you catch her interest, be it days, weeks, or months later, she'll lose interest quickly and start looking elsewhere. Better to grab her attention with positive attributes that indicate alpha status, especially in the long term.
I'm not saying you can't be a ***, god knows I *** with my girlfriend all the time, but using a negative attribute as your strategy to get a girl is ***-backwards. It works, I won't deny that, but only because many girls are bad at discerning the difference between a *** and a real alpha.
she said she had a boyfriend etc so its understandable :/ still saddened me because she talked to me a decent amount beforehand
Ah, gotcha. :< Fair enough really, but still sucky.
i kinda wish chicks had like some natural motion or sign they could put up to just honestly say they were taken and happy but want to be friends
i mean i'm ok with that, it's just that some chicks send some annoyingly mixed signals
ladies: if a guy seems like he would be fun to hang out with, but you are absolutely certain you don't want it to go further than that, be sure to casually mention your boyfriend/husband/significant other early in the conversation, to avoid aforementioned awkwardness!
she said she had a boyfriend etc so its understandable :/ still saddened me because she talked to me a decent amount beforehand
Ah, gotcha. :< Fair enough really, but still sucky.
i kinda wish chicks had like some natural motion or sign they could put up to just honestly say they were taken and happy but want to be friends
i mean i'm ok with that, it's just that some chicks send some annoyingly mixed signals
ladies: if a guy seems like he would be fun to hang out with, but you are absolutely certain you don't want it to go further than that, be sure to casually mention your boyfriend/husband/significant other early in the conversation, to avoid aforementioned awkwardness!
i kinda wish chicks had like some natural motion or sign they could put up to just honestly say they were taken and happy but want to be friends
i mean i'm ok with that, it's just that some chicks send some annoyingly mixed signals
ladies: if a guy seems like he would be fun to hang out with, but you are absolutely certain you don't want it to go further than that, be sure to casually mention your boyfriend/husband/significant other early in the conversation, to avoid aforementioned awkwardness!
Yeah, would be nice. I always mention when I'm taken straight off. It's their choice whether they wish to pursue friendship or just look elsewhere. Not offended if they don't want to be friends.
she said she had a boyfriend etc so its understandable :/ still saddened me because she talked to me a decent amount beforehand
Ah, gotcha. :< Fair enough really, but still sucky.
i kinda wish chicks had like some natural motion or sign they could put up to just honestly say they were taken and happy but want to be friends
i mean i'm ok with that, it's just that some chicks send some annoyingly mixed signals
ladies: if a guy seems like he would be fun to hang out with, but you are absolutely certain you don't want it to go further than that, be sure to casually mention your boyfriend/husband/significant other early in the conversation, to avoid aforementioned awkwardness!
she said she had a boyfriend etc so its understandable :/ still saddened me because she talked to me a decent amount beforehand
Ah, gotcha. :< Fair enough really, but still sucky.
i kinda wish chicks had like some natural motion or sign they could put up to just honestly say they were taken and happy but want to be friends
i mean i'm ok with that, it's just that some chicks send some annoyingly mixed signals
ladies: if a guy seems like he would be fun to hang out with, but you are absolutely certain you don't want it to go further than that, be sure to casually mention your boyfriend/husband/significant other early in the conversation, to avoid aforementioned awkwardness!
ladies: if a guy seems like he would be fun to hang out with, but you are absolutely certain you don't want it to go further than that, be sure to casually mention your boyfriend/husband/significant other early in the conversation, to avoid aforementioned awkwardness!
What if you don't have a boyfriend yet feel the same way as you described?! It's kind of amazing how some people react to this news, especially when they weren't led on.
What if you don't have a boyfriend yet feel the same way as you described?! It's kind of amazing how some people react to this news, especially when they weren't led on.
i kinda wish chicks had like some natural motion or sign they could put up to just honestly say they were taken and happy but want to be friends
i mean i'm ok with that, it's just that some chicks send some annoyingly mixed signals
ladies: if a guy seems like he would be fun to hang out with, but you are absolutely certain you don't want it to go further than that, be sure to casually mention your boyfriend/husband/significant other early in the conversation, to avoid aforementioned awkwardness!
Yeah, would be nice. I always mention when I'm taken straight off. It's their choice whether they wish to pursue friendship or just look elsewhere. Not offended if they don't want to be friends.
I think it's kinda odd that some people only want a relationship with a person, but would never be friends with them. If someone's worth being in a relationship with, how the heck are they not worth friendship? I feel like you should be with someone who's your best friend, not just someone you tolerate because they're the opposite sex :/ The only good reason I can think of for ditching friendship is if it'd be too heartbreaking to be close but not in that kind of way.
What if you don't have a boyfriend yet feel the same way as you described?! It's kind of amazing how some people react to this news, especially when they weren't led on.
