Romantically Frustrated?

I'm pretty sure all of the guys here are open to that. The problem is finding a girl who meets those specifications.

I seem to find that a lot of young men (not speaking about any of you, by the way! Just from my own observations in my area) seem to be more easily attracted or want a girl who is openly flirty.
One tip that I can give men (told my brother this as well lol) is to search for the girls that aren't as openly flirty. Because once you enter into a relationship with someone, trust me they can flirt and they can surprise you :P Just saying that, just because someone isn't openly flirty doesn't mean that they can't be, in the right circumstances.
I hope that made sense. xD Just seem to notice this trend a lot where I am, where plenty of girls are overlooked for this, and they aren't even bad looking.
I do agree there has to be some physical attraction though. But a lot of the time the very good looking people let it get to their heads (women or men).

Idk.. maybe its because I live in a big city but I walk outside and there's plenty of girls like that...

Personally I was always more into the shy types... that doesn't mean they're shy when they get to know you and such but yea you get what I mean...

I have only a handful of female friends. I'm extremely picky when it comes to friends and I've had only like 10 female friends in my entire lifetime. All of which I would *date* if I were a straight male. That's 10 potential mates I found in my entire lifetime. This is ignoring whether or not they have boyfriends (and I'm pretty sure most/all of them do). I can only imagine how hard it would be for a guy who's looking for a good mate AS WELL AS taking looks into account/if they even liked me back.

I don't know if I made sense, but it's not as easy as you're making it sound. D:

Of course it is! But I just thought I'd offer my own take and advice on the matter, because potentially good girls are easily overlooked due to this (Just like quieter guys are more easily overlooked by girls).
I think that the chances to find a 'keeper' are a bit higher in the group of girls that aren't openly flirty with many people. Flirtation also indicates confidence (whether that be in their looks or personality etc), but it could also mean that they know all the right buttons to push to string a guy along. That's not to say that these girls are skanks xD There will be nice flirty girls who are decent people of course.

...aaand I'm rambling. *zips it*!

I think we just look at the topic differently is all... which is not a bad thing... this kind of thing has some general aspects but in the end comes down to personal preference... 10 potential good mates actually seems like a lot to me... I've kind of always had a carefree attitdue about the whole thing and that led me to quite a few short relationships, quite a few rejections, a few good ones, and one really special one... I've very rarely turned opportunities away and was always straightforward about if I wanted to continue or end it.. I just figured giving things a chance rather than turning them away was just a good way for me...

Just goes to show that it's largely a guessing game. The quiet girl in the corner could be an intelligent, sweet girl who just isn't big on partying, or she could be a doormat. The flirty girl could be a skank or she could be a confident, outgoing woman looking for a guy to match that.

Yes, 10 is a lot but you'd have to think about it this way. If I were a male I would probably be like... 5'0''~5'6'', attractive, stout build (not fat, just would have a short waist etc), smart~highly intelligent, possibly athletic. I would be totally awesome.....if I weren't a damned midget.

Unfortunately for guys, height severely limits the girls you can get. There's a good chance only 3 of those 10 would actually even consider dating me--most of my friends are actually pretty tall. :/ And then you'd have to take into account if they even liked my personality and on top of that were single.

It's just not that easy if you're looking for anything more than a ***/person to be with for a few months.

MIDGET

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Not saying its easy to find somebody you could truly fall in love with that will also love you back and want to spend the rest of your lives together... What I'm saying is if an opportunity presents itself to maybe give things more of a chance to blossom then outright dismiss it... I'm sure most times you meet someone all its meant to be is a little bit of fun but maybe if you let someone in that you initially might not have they might be the one... basically what does it hurt to get to know someone? and then go from there...

How many people do you know that started serious lasting relationships at 13? lol I mean I'm sure its not unheard of but thats gotta be very rare... And 10 possibilities for a long lasting meaningful relationship to me seems like a lot... might just be me..

I guess I'm going off of how long relationships actually lasted when, at least when I was 13... which was not very long..

I guess it does happen lol.... so what are you frustrated about it seems like you've always had a g/f unless your 40ish or something now...

Ahh your one of those "always want to be in a relationship" types...

That sounded like "I want someone to *** but its easier to accomplish when they get the g/f // b/f status instead of *** status" lol.... just as long as you don't employ your choloroform in reality like you talk about it here... lol...

I can't even describe how much time I've been alone vs been with someone because of long distance relationships. Oh an the amount of money I've spent for plane tickets.

Sometimes you have to decide if it's worth it.

I tried it once it didn't work out... my whole philosophy on it turned out to be that if there's no possibility that you can move near them in the sometime near future then it should stay as friends allowing other things to happen until that time does come... that's just how I look at it though... I mean I'm open to things starting anywhere... but when your "together" for years and never get to see eachother at all it just kinda becomes something that is unsustainable... It works for some though so I don't knock it either...

It's funny, I'm completely distrusting.. But yet I always trust the guys hundreds of miles away

I've never cheated on or been cheated on... been kinda lucky like that..

Most of my problems with wermins has to do with the fact that I only have a few cursory subjects in common.
But when it gets down to it there are too many fundamental differences to make a general connection outside of a sexual connection.

That usually ends in break-up as well lol.
I'm a very hot and cold person.
I'm boring as hell and not fun if you talk about ***that I really don't know much about and even worse if I don't really care about it lol.

I hate that it usually works out that way, but I dunno.
you could say I'm at fault for not just trying to get with someone that fits me better but meh...

Maybe it'll go differently in the future...lol I dunno.
I think it's because it's hard a ***for me to meet new people.
I met a ***ton of people over the years and now at this point "i'm like why meet new people, i'll just use the stock of friendships i've already started developing woo!"

but i find that almost guarantees that ***won't work but that may be me just being a negative nancy.

now if i was strung out on some good opiates i'd be able to meet new people every day and pull my cool guy act off without a hitch though.

i can do the body language fine, just lining up the words with that gets hard unless i'm under the influence of a substance I believe lol.