Don't misunderstand me, I'm probably the least person in the world who'd tell you that sex is only done for love. However, there's nothing wrong with being cautious if you feel it's important. Mmm, I'll go with an example: I'm totally into X and we go on a date. Now, I would sure jump on X gladly if the chance comes, but rushing things can sometimes ruin them, so I'll refrain my animal instincts if I can and I'll just be flirty and see how things evolve.
That being said, I'm sure I explained it horribly and didn't state my point as I wanted <.<
It's somewhat offensive that you feel as if I misunderstood you. I did not.
I'm going to explain it better since I had to run to class and take an exam, so I wasn't able to fully flesh out my thoughts. Sex and a relationship are two totally different things. Sex with someone you're in a relationship with/care for is obviously better. I'm not running around having sex with every man in site,
however I generally know if they're worth having a relationship with(and thus sex!) right off the bat.
You should
not have sex with someone if you think there's a chance they're hiding the crazy. This happens a lot. Crazy people are pretty good at hiding the crazy, so if you can't read someone immediately, chances are you should cool your jets otherwise you'll get some fanatical stalker.
Anyway, having sex with a
sane person on the first date won't affect anything. Some people like playing games. I do not enjoy playing games, I'm very blunt and straight-forward. If a man was teasing me, then refused to put out, I'd be pretty pissed to be quite frank. It's like holding a bone over a dog's nose and be like, "sorry you're not getting this until I feel like you should."
If you and the person you're with enjoy playing mind-games, then sure. Don't have sex on the first date, that's your thing. But if that's
not your thing there's no reason to wait.
I've had two perfectly good relationships come out of sex-on-the-first-dates. One was a guy I met once, then met up with him again and we stayed up all night watching anime and stuff, then we started dating/had sex. I was with him for a few years and we're still friends. He dumped me for legitimate reasons, reasons that had absolutely nothing to do with having sex on the first date. Our sex life was alright(was the best I had up to that point in my life), and it was him that held it back not our first sex.
Second relationship that I had sex on the first date was Nightfyre. We were good friends beforehand, and he came over to visit. I promptly proceeded to rape him. Our sex life has been just as exciting as it was the first day, and our relationship is just peachy.