Have you ever met someone who is really nice, but somehow also a complete jerkwad?
Long story short, we've been renting in AZ because it's likely a temporary location for us. We had been going month-to-month on our lease after our first year was up. Our landlord, who is on the surface a nice guy that I got along with well enough, sends me an email saying that he has extended family members that wants to stay in the house so he's giving us the legal minimum of 30 days to pack up and leave, essentially forcing a family of five with three young kids (that love their school) to find a new place to live in one of the most brutal housing markets in the U.S. with the bare minimum level of notice.
Now, through basically what was a miracle or just a statistical improbability depending on how you view things, we managed to quickly find and secure a new place to live just down the street (it happened to be the only available house within the relatively small school boundaries), so at the end of the day it worked out. But our landlord can't even seem to fathom that what he did was in any way, shape, or form wrong. Likewise, with every repair he ever had to make in our time here (and there were several because the previous tenants didn't take good care of the place) he kept telling us he was doing it out of the goodness of his heart instead of, you know, his contractual obligation as stated in the lease.
What makes a nice person do crappy things to people? Self-righteousness? An utter lack of social awareness? The inability to comprehend that there can be a difference between legality and morality? Or maybe people just suck. /shrug
Most likely entitlement mixed with learned apathy due to all the similar situations landlords face often. Being able to truly reflect internally and grow from that effort is a extremely rare trait amongst extroverts, and a rare trait with introverts.
The more you’d know the person, the more simplicity you can glean; we are highly simple rudimentary critters.
1. We can justify any action imaginable
2. Greed and selfishness are just as critical traits to human success over the centuries as Philia and storge.