Pandemonium.Spicyryan said:
Ramuh.Scizor said:
Bismarck.Elanabelle said:
But whipping someone with a belt more than a dozen times = ALSO bad parenting.
As a kid my father used to belt me when I got in trouble and I thank him for it. The level of discipline with the current generation of teenagers/kids is so low more parents should follow this guys example.
Are you telling me there was no better way to get through to you than your parents unable to concede to their failures thus striking you?
I was raised more or less with the non physical punishment method. At least that was my grandmother's way of doing it (who raised me) I've gotten my *** whooped over the years when I'd got to visit my Mom.
Looking back on it, I can honestly say I wish I had my *** whipped more than I did.. I was a bad kid, and I was bad because I knew I could get away with it, the only punishment I got was grounding, and even that worked against her (and even me) eventually.. The more I was grounded the more I got used to being by myself, not needing/wanting friends around, until at some point the scales tipped and I didn't even need to be grounded to be found by myself.
That solitary mentality is still something I struggle with today... It's extremely hard for me to show my love and affection for people just because I've been trained to live isolated for so many years. Do you think anyone who tries to get close to me really even understands why I have trouble expressing my emotion? I don't think they do..
You can try and say there's a better way than physically based punishment, but the simple fact of the matter is that different kids will respond differently to different treatment. Should all kids be spanked as punishment? No.. Do I think none should? No.
I wouldn't say I'm against violence, but I will usually only use it when cornered (probably due to my upbringing****) I try to explore all other means to solve a problem first.. The simple fact is,
sometimes a kid needs to get his *** whipped. Anyone who is against it 100% is no less foolish than those who think it's the only solution.
**** = That's not justification enough, IMO to keep from using physical forms of punishment. The effects I've suffered due to the punishment that was used on me as a kid have proven to be even worse than those produced by my brothers who were raised by the hand.