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By Asura.Lolserj 2017-02-27 14:03:35
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Bismarck.Josiahfk said: »
Nadleeh Sakurai said: »
ok got that off my chest.

yadda yadda donny yadda yadda element yadda tangents etc
Yadda yadda feigns offense at him yadda yadda passive aggressive yadda yadda rambles about kindness etc

Something something Bloodborne?
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By Idiot Boy 2017-02-27 14:04:27
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Parenting is hard ***

Nah.

It's time consuming, and forces a rework of some priorities, but it's really only hard if you make it hard. Our instincts guide us pretty well, especially early on.

80% of this job is giving a *** about who your kid grows up to be, if can you do that the rest will basically sort itself out

I know that technically my parents wanted me to grow up to be someone else entirely, but that didn't happen

Not that I'm a *** up or anything, definitely feels good to be the best off among siblings

Well, I don't mean that in the sense of "my boy better be a doctor or he's out of the will". It's more - I want him to not be a total jackass. I want him to enjoy lots of different kinds of things. I don't want him living in my basement at 27. That kind of thing. The details of his life are up to him, it's his life.
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By Shiva.Spathaian 2017-02-27 14:08:16
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Idiot Boy said: »
Asura.Lolserj said: »
Idiot Boy said: »
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Parenting is hard ***

Nah.

It's time consuming, and forces a rework of some priorities, but it's really only hard if you make it hard. Our instincts guide us pretty well, especially early on.

80% of this job is giving a *** about who your kid grows up to be, if can you do that the rest will basically sort itself out

I know that technically my parents wanted me to grow up to be someone else entirely, but that didn't happen

Not that I'm a *** up or anything, definitely feels good to be the best off among siblings

Well, I don't mean that in the sense of "my boy better be a doctor or he's out of the will". It's more - I want him to not be a total jackass. I want him to enjoy lots of different kinds of things. I don't want him living in my basement at 27. That kind of thing. The details of his life are up to him, it's his life.
Nah you totally own his ***.
 
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By Asura.Dameshi 2017-02-27 14:09:19
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Idiot Boy said: »
Asura.Lolserj said: »
Idiot Boy said: »
Bismarck.Josiahfk said: »
Parenting is hard ***

Nah.

It's time consuming, and forces a rework of some priorities, but it's really only hard if you make it hard. Our instincts guide us pretty well, especially early on.

80% of this job is giving a *** about who your kid grows up to be, if can you do that the rest will basically sort itself out

I know that technically my parents wanted me to grow up to be someone else entirely, but that didn't happen

Not that I'm a *** up or anything, definitely feels good to be the best off among siblings

Well, I don't mean that in the sense of "my boy better be a doctor or he's out of the will". It's more - I want him to not be a total jackass. I want him to enjoy lots of different kinds of things. I don't want him living in my basement at 27. That kind of thing. The details of his life are up to him, it's his life.
What if he becomes a shitposter?
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By Asura.Lolserj 2017-02-27 14:10:30
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Idiot Boy said: »
Asura.Lolserj said: »
Idiot Boy said: »
Bismarck.Josiahfk said: »
Parenting is hard ***

Nah.

It's time consuming, and forces a rework of some priorities, but it's really only hard if you make it hard. Our instincts guide us pretty well, especially early on.

80% of this job is giving a *** about who your kid grows up to be, if can you do that the rest will basically sort itself out

I know that technically my parents wanted me to grow up to be someone else entirely, but that didn't happen

Not that I'm a *** up or anything, definitely feels good to be the best off among siblings

Well, I don't mean that in the sense of "my boy better be a doctor or he's out of the will". It's more - I want him to not be a total jackass. I want him to enjoy lots of different kinds of things. I don't want him living in my basement at 27. That kind of thing. The details of his life are up to him, it's his life.

I mean depending on who you ask they'd probably say I'm a total Jackass

My parents just had some expectations that I blatantly strayed from, but it's hard to call me the "*** up" due to how other siblings claim that title

But if they were just slightly different I guarantee you, I would be the *** up
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By Shiva.Spathaian 2017-02-27 14:12:57
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Asura.Lolserj said: »
Idiot Boy said: »
Bismarck.Josiahfk said: »
Parenting is hard ***

Nah.

It's time consuming, and forces a rework of some priorities, but it's really only hard if you make it hard. Our instincts guide us pretty well, especially early on.

80% of this job is giving a *** about who your kid grows up to be, if can you do that the rest will basically sort itself out

I know that technically my parents wanted me to grow up to be someone else entirely, but that didn't happen
Dad still thinks he *** up with me just because I'm not into absolutely everything he is. But he thinks I turned out incredibly well and am far better off than my sister or he ever was.

The whole "I should have spent more time with you because then you'd be more like me" thing is incredibly disheartening to hear though.
 
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By Asura.Dameshi 2017-02-27 14:19:19
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How the Oscar blunder should have gone:
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By Asura.Lolserj 2017-02-27 14:20:28
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Shiva.Spathaian said: »
Asura.Lolserj said: »
Idiot Boy said: »
Bismarck.Josiahfk said: »
Parenting is hard ***

Nah.

It's time consuming, and forces a rework of some priorities, but it's really only hard if you make it hard. Our instincts guide us pretty well, especially early on.

80% of this job is giving a *** about who your kid grows up to be, if can you do that the rest will basically sort itself out

I know that technically my parents wanted me to grow up to be someone else entirely, but that didn't happen
Dad still thinks he *** up with me just because I'm not into absolutely everything he is. But he thinks I turned out incredibly well and am far better off than my sister or he ever was.

The whole "I should have spent more time with you because then you'd be more like me" thing is incredibly disheartening to hear though.


I say to hell with that. I like the Spath you are, not the Spath you could have been
 
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By Shiva.Spathaian 2017-02-27 14:29:04
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The whole "I should have spent more time with you because then you'd be more like me" thing is incredibly disheartening to hear though.
yeah I can relate to that. At one point my dad wanted me to take over running his hospital when he retired and for years tried to get me to move down south with them.

It's all about effort though so I never dwell on all of the *** ups or unhealthy behavior of the past, just the effort that was/is put forth when it is.
We all have unhealthy behavior to wrestle with at some point after all.
It's less about something like "I wanted you to walk in my footsteps and carry on our business" (he actually told me to never become a truck driver because it's not worth it blah blah blah) it was more of "Why don't you share my love of the outdoors and cars and why don't you go out and do tons of unneeded hard work every day and why aren't you a lady killer"

Basically he constantly beats himself up for me not being the outdoorsy car/motorcycle nut ladies man he was/is.
 
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By Shiva.Spathaian 2017-02-27 14:36:04
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Bismarck.Josiahfk said: »
Was his dad really outdoorsy too?
That kind of misplaced guilt is pretty common in your dad's generation I think. Try to think back to how boys were raised back then and how the world behaved etc

Vastly different society and emotional capacities for men
His dad went from living on a reservation to owning his own farm.

You could say he was outdoorsy.

Dad always has been and will continue to be a very stubborn man, even by my standards. He will accept technology if you talk to him for an incredibly long time and it somehow fits his needs perfectly, but otherwise he will essentially damn it to hell anything else. It's even worse if an error arises as he's one of those folks who doesn't think it can ever be his fault, and mom was the same way. Which is why they're not together anymore.

Even now I have to struggle to remind my mother she's not the wiz with technology she might think she is and that sometimes she needs to let someone else step in to help.

...

Basically my family is full of stubborn people... But some are at least stubborn while accepting some good things.

Then there's this ***.
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By Valefor.Sehachan 2017-02-27 14:39:47
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I'd say today the biggest thing about raising a child is to make sure they're not internet addicted since a young age. Doesn't matter if you're an introvert, you need to go outside and live the real life.
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Emotions are not a modern challenge *sighs*
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By Asura.Lolserj 2017-02-27 14:44:44
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Bismarck.Josiahfk said: »
Proper mental health is extremely understated in North American society.

The voices tell me otherwise
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By Nadleeh Sakurai 2017-02-27 14:48:06
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too
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By Shiva.Spathaian 2017-02-27 14:48:40
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Valefor.Sehachan said: »
I'd say today the biggest thing about raising a child is to make sure they're not internet addicted since a young age. Doesn't matter if you're an introvert, you need to go outside and live the real life.
I've seen the full on internet addicted kids... they are scary...

I'm still curious of that's what I look like from the outside.
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By Valefor.Sehachan 2017-02-27 14:49:53
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imagine the both negative and positive possibilities
It's irrelevant to what I'm talking about. Ffs I'm starting to see why they keep telling you you're out of your element.
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By Nadleeh Sakurai 2017-02-27 14:51:03
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I am not addicted to the internet.
I also play gamess offline.
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I did not. I said today. Your counter has nothing to *** do with what I said.
 
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